My husband and I recently attended the Dedication of our friends’ infant daughter. My husband is Catholic. I’m LDS. Our friends are Baptist. It was a learning experience.

(For the record, Canadian Baptists are not quite the same as Southern Baptists and seem to have nowhere near the paranoia and vitriol their southern brethren have for Mormons.)

I tried, I really tried, to let go and feel the Spirit there. It worked for the first song, “Ode to Joy.” But after that there was so MUCH singing and dancing and the loud band… (Yes, band, with guitars, drums, mikes and the whole works– I had to forcefully and repeatedly remind myself that there is nothing intrinsically wrong with having a band instead of a piano or organ.) Then our friend got up to give the… er, I’m not sure if they call it a sermon. It was engaging and interesting but I cringed each time he referred to God as the “Ultimate As-Is Shopper!” Apart from the theological differences I have with such an appellation, it seems lacking in reverence.

On the whole I found it a disappointing and unsettling experience. Fortunately I was able to time everything in such a way that I was still able to attend Sacrament and Sunday School and boy did I need it! I didn’t feel peaceful and centered again until nearly all three hours were over.

My husband, who is a born mediator and always looks at everything from all sides, tried to point out that the Spirit is where you feel it and there is nothing wrong with the way they worship. He also admitted that they were too energetic and friendly for him and that’s part of why he hadn’t chosen them when he’d been investigating religion.

Our reactions really aren’t a surprise. I taken the Meyers-Brigss personality test and its clones and I nearly always come out ISFJ. I know my husband is something similar. The Baptist church is one which neither of us could ever seriously attend. So what then about the extroverts of the world?

My husband also pointed out that our friend’s sermon exemplifies one of the hallmarks of the Baptist church– using modern language and examples. What I view as one of our strengths, our emphasis on scriptures and reverent attitudes, is to some people a drawback that keeps them from feeling engaged. I hate the idea that people are missing out on the gospel because our church is just too quiet for them and they’re turned off before they can learn more. How can we add energy and “relevance” to our meetings? Should we even try?