Some people say they have no regrets or never argue with their spouses, I think they are liars. I have regrets and, yes, my spouse and I have argued over the last 13 years. It seems to me that to say one has no regrets or that you never argued with your spouse shows that either you are not very reflective/introspective about your life or that either you or your spouse is so passive they never push back on anything, which means one person likely dominates the relationship. Neither option is particularly healthy in my mind. I think that having regrets is helpful as it can facilitate behavioral change in us, while minor/moderate disagreements with our spouse are also helpful in that these too can facilitate change and enable us to grow together as a couple. Of course, I could also be trying to justify my own imperfections in a positive light…