“The Family Is Of God” is my least favorite primary song now. We are learning it for the 2009 Sacrament Meeting Presentation. When we started to learn it, I really liked the first verse, but the second and third verses make me want to puke.

The reason I really dislike the 2nd and 3rd verses is that they focus on the traditional parental stereotypes, that are actually rarely the case in most families. My primary class has several kids with single parents (both moms and dads) as well as blended families, non-member parents, etc. To propogate the stereotypical family and stereotypical roles is ridiculous. Why couldn’t we sing the 2nd and 3rd verses about our parents instead of specifically addressing a father or mother?

Here are the words:

1. Our Father has a family. It’s me!
It’s you, all others too: we are His children.
He sent each one of us to earth, through birth,
To live and learn here in fam’lies.

2. A father’s place is to preside, provide,
To love and teach the gospel to his children.
A father leads in fam’ly prayer to share
Their love for Father in Heaven.

3. A mother’s purpose is to care, prepare,
To nurture and to strengthen all her children.
She teaches children to obey, to pray,
To love and serve in the fam’ly.

4. I’ll love and serve my family and be
A good example to each fam’ly member.
And when I am a mom or dad, so glad,
I’ll help my fam’ly remember:

God gave us families to help us become what He wants us to be—
This is how He shares His love, for the fam’ly is of God.