You know this question. You’ve been asked it. You’ve probably asked it yourself. Here is my question: what is an appropriate response?

If you are like me, your immediate reaction is “no” but almost always, I have an immediate unstated reaction along the lines of: “I don’t know, how can you help me?”

You may have had experiences wherein you were asked for help that you felt was inappropriate. I think we all have had experiences, whether we recognize them or not, in NOT being asked for help we really could have easily offered. So where is the balance? Sure some of it has to do with your relationship, your family situations, and even your lifestyle. But let’s pretend that you are home or visiting teaching a family that is new to you: what services are you offering when you ask, “Is there any way we can help you?”