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I think sealings are for immediate family or for friends close enough to be family. Visiting teachers/home teachers/aunts/uncles do not get invited unless they are close to be really “family”. Simply put – if your primary relationship is via greeting card, you definitely don’t get an invite. |
Agree with Queuno- the more the merrier, though. We tried to shorten the list for our sealing and I regret it. |
Most of the people I know have thought it odd that there were people in the sealing room from their own side that they themselves hadn’t invited or didn’t know well. My husband didn’t appreciate the Aunt who was trying to talk him into voting for Bo Gritz half an hour before the wedding! He was just trying to get his temple clothes. |
You’re right, thanks, guys. All the other people have been close to her since she was a baby. Absolutely there was a difference! Exactly as you describe. |
I think that many people would cause me to do it in secret and tell everybody about it after the fact. |
Our daughter is getting married in 3 weeks. The temple actually suggested they winnow down their list when they called to reserve a sealing room. Groom has eleven siblings, all active, half married; which shall we not invite? Bride’s 2 siblings will be invited, plus the YSA bishop who loves the couple, and a former YW leader who has loved her since age 6—she’s also the mother of daughter’s best friend (best friend is too far to be invited). The others invited are parents, grandparents, and 2 aunt/uncle couples who are very close to our girl. Hts. VTs, other leaders and friends did not cross our minds, although they are all invited to the reception, and many to the bridal shower last week. I certainly think the guests ought to be very close. The sealing room is not a place for introductions! |
I think I need my own personal Mormon Emily Post. I do have to disagree with your last sentence. Maybe that’s not where you gather and introduce people, but surely a lot of people close to the bride haven’t met the groom. In our case, my sister, Sarah’s only relative who might attend, has never met the groom’s family. On the other hand, the sealing room probably isn’t the place for introductions to the bride and groom of people they’ve never met or even heard of…my friends don’t know Sarah. So now I feel stupid for even inviting them. On the still other hand, our lives have been kind of like that because, as I said, not many Mormon relatives on my side and none on Bill’s side. |
Whoever you and the couple feel should be invited! Anytime I receive an invite to a marriage or sealing I feel happy and fortunate, regardless of whether it comes from family or friends. People should just be happy about it! |
John, you are officially invited :) |
I say this is a wonderful, breath taking event in a world full of problems and pain. Pack the room with everyone you love. I wouldn’t censor my happiness about this good news and I hope you don’t either. Invite everyone you feel would truly be happy for the couple. They can decide for themselves if they want to attend the sealing. Congratulations!! This is worth celebrating. |
Thank you, living in Zion, I’m going to make you my personal Emily Post! |
“John, you are officially invited :)” Thanks! :-) |
Tomorrow at 12:30 pm. St. George Temple. Guasp. :) |
Maybe the couple should invite the guests, not the parents. Just a thought. (No one is paying for the wedding itself…). And I don’t fault a temple for saying, “We have this much room, deal with it”. |
They never said anything to us about limiting invites–the kids, I mean. There were about 20 people there; only Bill, me and my best friend on Sarah’s side. I wasn’t going to invite the whole blog, queuno just John Harvey. And some old friends. |
Here’s another ettiquette question: Jessie’s giving Sarah a baby shower in May. She’s so jazzed because she will truly be a part of this baby’s life without the garbage we’ve had to endure with her brother’s wife and they way they use the children. I told her I would do the invites and support her in this. Should I put where Sarah’s registered on the invites? I didn’t realize people even registered for baby gifts. She is registered–I had no idea about this. What do you think? I refused to put it on their wedding invitations because I just think that’s so tacky. This might be more acceptable; a bit more informal of an occasion. |
I wouldn’t put on the actual invite, instead I would have it on a separate slip of paper inserted inside the card. Then they can have the invite posted as a reminder of the date and take the slip of paper to the store while shopping. |
Thanks, I’ve NEVER done anything like this. And technically I’m still not. But I like your idea. I’m also going to put a magnet (I’m making them) in each one to put the invite on their fridge–and a sticker for their calendars. It will be cheap, really. How soon before should I send them? Some are out of town, some in town. |
I like the magnet and sticker idea. I need a lot of reminders of important stuff. I think sending invites anytime within a month of the event is good. Many people have their calendars already committed for events within two weeks, so sending invites at the 3-4 week mark might be best. |