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Beauty. |
Oh, she is beautiful inside and out. My daughters are both gorgeous. They don’t look a thing like me. Jessie’s 6 feet tall! Our famiy pictures look pretty funny, all these tall dark amazons and my short chubby freckly self. |
While I was in sacrament yesterday, I had a moment to look at my LDS Library app, wondering if I had downloaded the Ensigns from 1971 and forward. Clicked on 1993 for some reason, then on March, then on “I Have a Question.” The question was about what hope parents have if their children have strayed from church for whatever reason. Later that afternoon, was sitting with a couple and all 6 of their children weren’t active until their oldest daughter got back active a couple of months ago after about a 20 year absence from church. I was able to share some wonderful quotes from the article, which basically says while our children have their agency, if they were born under or adopted into the sealing covenant, and we keep our covenants, we and them are entitled to extra spiritual blessings. Our children struggle from time to time, just like we do. Some are on higher spiritual plains than others, but I know of no family that is immune from heartache. Thanks for sharing this small but huge step in your daughter’s life. FWIW, I was a ward mission leader once. Dreaded the call when issued, but once I got going, was really blessed. |
I’m so happy for you and for Jessie. |
When I was a kid in Florida, my father was the bishop. They set up a “Third on the Third” – a goal to have a third of the people at Sacrament mtg on the third Sunday of the month be non-members. The talks were specifically designed to be such that non-members would feel comfortable. There was food and mingling afterward. Results: At one point, there were over a dozen missionaries assigned to our ward area. We had 150-200 baptisms/year. The Catholic High School boys’ basketball team used our gym for practice each morning while theirs was being redone. A Jewish synagogue met in our building for a year on Saturdays after theirs had a fire. It was a magical time. |
I’ve been critical of some aspects of our region’s mission plan and not very supportive. I’m really uncomfortable pushing my beliefs on people. But like IDIAT wrote, there’s some kind of spirit in the effort. I doubt this means that Jessie will become active (although never say never, I said my mother would never stop drinking and my hell, she did!) but it was a sweet surprise. She was laughing at my incredulity as she told me about her church visit. “You went to church????” I didn’t post her best pictures, but these exemplify her glorious personality. She really lights up a room. Her boyfriend served a mission and was married in the temple, but is now inactive. He’s not entirely off the church, so you never know. I’m pretty sure he’s the first RM she ever dated. |
I am always thrilled when grown children make a good choice, whatever that is. After our kids all grew up, I realized what free angency really means. It means they are free to ignore everything they were ever taught and to learn every life lesson the hard way. I am grateful every time a child picks the easy way. |
Good stuff! |
Now that my oldest is 18, I think the best way to approach his actions is with faith. Faith that we taught him the right things and that will have a good effect. Faith in him that he is a good person and whatever he does, he will have my love and support. And most of all, faith in the Lord, knowing that my children are his children too. |
I think you’re wise. I had no idea you had kids that old….you might be too old for me. |
Idiat, the person who is now our patriarch once said the same thing in a SS class. It’s such an important comforting principle! I wonder why we don’t hear more about it. |
Perhaps Idiat was referring to this quote: “The Prophet Joseph Smith declared–and he never taught a more comforting doctrine–that the eternal sealings of faithful parents and the divine promises made to them for valiant service in the Cause of Truth, would save not only themselves, but likewise their posterity. Though some of the sheep may wander, the eye of the Shepherd is upon them and sooner or later they will feel the tentacles of divine Providence reaching out after them and drawing them back to the fold. Either in this life or the life to come, they will return. They will have to pay their debt to justice; they will suffer for their sins; and may tread a thorny path, but if it leads them at last, like the penitent Prodigal, to a loving and forgiving father’s heart and home, the painful experience will not have been in vain. Pray for your careless and disobedient children; hold on to them with your faith. Hope on, trust on, till you see the salvation of God” (Orson F. Whitney, CR, 1929, 110). |
Wow…..I love it. |
Not sure how I feel about the “tentacles” of divine providence. I really wish he’d used a different word there. But regardless of that, the point of that quote is excellent and very comforting. Sorry if I don’t fit your ideal profile annegb, but I will continue to love you anyway. |
not to derail and not to hurt anyone but is Elder Whitney saying that as long as the the parent(s) are active then it doesn’t matter what the kids do or believe because they are saved anyways? what if I go inactive and don’t want to repent of any sins or become atheist or something but because my parents are still active then will I be exalted? |
Steamtrain – It is saying that because parents have made eternal convenants, that eventually their children can be reunited with them in the eternities after they have experienced whatever the eternal equivalent of the repentance process is. |
#15–No, I don’t believe he meant it in the unconditional sense. According to Joseph Fielding Smith, by virtue of their parents sealing, children born in the covenant have different “entitlements” or “claims” than those not BIC. That is, they receive a greater guidance, a greater protection and inspiration from the Lord’s spirit. But that does not mean that they, because of that birthright, will inherit celestial glory. The faith and faithfulness of fathers and mothers will not save disobedient children. Salvation is an individual matter. Salvation cannot be forced upon those who do not want it, and every soul will be judged according to his/her works. But children BIC, who drift away, are still the children of their parents; and the parents have a claim upon them; and if the children have not sinned away all their rights, the parents may be able to bring them through repentance, into the celestial kingdom, but not necessarily to receive exaltation. |
This from Brown in Ensign March 1993: “They and their children BIC have a right to spiritual help in this life. Even those children who have for a time forsaken the gospel often speak of a recurring, troubling need to return to the fold. Perhaps these desires come to them because they are children of the covenant–children whose hearts, planted with patriarchal promises, ‘shall return to their fathers.’” |
shall *turn* to their fathers. |
It’s easy to tell which mission plans are inspired of the Lord and which aren’t. Jesus would be a wonderful, unorthodox mission leader. He would definitely be thinking outside of the box. |
*sigh*I should stop renidag comments anywhere. Every time I read comments, Jesus cries.I love your blog, by the way. I don’t remember if I came to it from Roland Soong’s blog or China Beat or found it myself, but it’s always a breath of fresh air. Thanks! |