I always disliked those examples to girls (did they do that for boys?) where the leader would chew gum and hand it to the girls, making the point that if they have sex, nobody will want them. There were others. Mashed up cake. I thought they were silly and ineffective.

I talk to teenage girls sometimes now–the girls who came to help me clean for a yard sale, for instance. I just told them right out “If you’re going to have sex, use condoms AND the pill.” And, “the odds of you getting dumped rise exponentially when you give in and sleep with him.” And, “being a mom at 16 is a cheap thrill. Don’t do it.”

Check out this report on Elizabeth Smart’s speech at Johns Hopkins:

(sorry, I suck at posting links)

She said she’d had that chewed up gum lesson and thought after she was raped that it didn’t matter if she was found because ‘Oh, my gosh, I’m that chewed up piece of gum, nobody re-chews a piece of gum, you throw it away.’ And that’s how easy it is to feel like you know longer have worth, you know longer have value,” Smart said. “Why would it even be worth screaming out? Why would it even make a difference if you are rescued? Your life still has no value.”

I love this: Smart says children should be educated that “you will always have value and nothing can change that.”

A friend, who I love, but think is stupid, once told the Young Women (I think she was the president) that she’d rather have her daughter dead than pregnant out of wedlock. Well, she ate those words at the wedding of her 3 months pregnant daughter.

I called my friend who’s in the YW presidency now and asked about how they approach pre-marital sex currently. She said they don’t use those examples and the church discourages this type of rhetoric. They discuss the subject using the scriptures but avoid harsh dogma while encouraging chastity (what a tight rope, huh?).

This is one more reason I will never be called to the Young Women. I’d be all for the pill.