We’ve come a long way, baby, we Mormon women. I didn’t agree that wearing pants to church was a good way to make a point, but I do agree that progress needed to be made.

I see a lot of young women, though, who are putting the burden of perfection upon themselves to the breaking point. Sometimes they break with the church but more often they break with themselves.

Julie’s book offers some solutions, I think. She opens with a definition of burnout and introduces myths that we tell ourselves as we struggle to “be ye perfect.”

I especially love her chapter on feelings. Too many of us expect happiness as a normal emotion and beat ourselves up when we are less than joyful, lacking in cheer. She makes the point that living requires ups and downs in emotions and that this is natural, even healthy part of the human experience.

Subsequent chapters focus on having the courage to say no, exploring our emotional family history and learning to speak kindly to ourselves. She includes exercises which I eschewed but believe many will find helpful.

I wish books like these could be included in Relief Society curriculums. I wish we could avoid the preaching and the judging and learn to love ourselves. I recommend Julie’s book for women who might be struggling with burnout and depression.