Happy New Year! Or for those of you special people who live in Colorado, today should be “Whoaaa Duuuude.” As of today, Colorado residents over 21 can legally buy pot for recreational use.  I am once again thinking of good Mormon folks and how this legal change effects them. Read more »

The Last Christmas
Rex with the Young children

Rex with Elise, Ty and Jennifer

Christmas 1998 was the last year we had with my brother, Rex. He had been diagnosed with a terminal brain tumor months before and had already outlived the doctor’s original predictions. What gifts do you buy for someone who is dying? How do you keep it in perspective? We had two choices: We could blow the bank and make it the Christmas of a lifetime, buying Rex and our kids everything they ever wished for. It would have to go on credit cards since we were living paycheck to paycheck and even a moderate Christmas would push us into using our banks overdraft line of credit. Our other choice was live within our meager means and buy what we could afford. Read more »

My Dream Mission Program or….Now that women are giving the opening prayer in meetings, I’m on to other causes

I think our mission program needs re-vamping (well, along with the visiting teaching and home teaching). Total overhaul.

Here are some of my suggestions:

1. Allow the missionary to specify the length of their service. Some are not up to two years, but might kick butt for six months. Read more »

DKL speaks from the past

I was in the Costco in Lewiston, Idaho one time, and I saw a lady with a shirt that said, “Stupid raisins! Stay out of my cookies!” and I thought “How great is that?” because all this time I thought I was the only person in the world who hates raisins in cookies, and now I know I’m not alone. Thank you, lady from Lewiston Costco.

I have simple tastes. For years I ate mostly Big Macs. In college I ate mostly pizza — warm for dinner, cold for breakfast and lunch, because cold pizza is the breakfast of champions. Unfortunately, living with other people (like a spouse and kids) means never eating the same thing more than once a day. Shoot, sometimes I don’t even get to eat the same thing more than once a week. It has taken some time to get used to.

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Art Gorsh Taught Me How to Live in the ‘Hood

Our next door neighbor, Art, died a few weeks ago. He was 93 years young. He was also the best neighbor we’ve ever had, which is saying a lot. Read more »

Mormon Women Bare, a review

Mormon women have bodies, too

Warning!! The above is a link to actual total nudity; perhaps you will not want to click on it.

Some years back, a group of older British women posed nude in pearls for a calendar to raise money for a charity. I absolutely loved the pictures. Each woman looked lovely; the main focus of the picture was showing their beauty not their nakedness. Our bodies change for the worse as we age and I was heartened.

English Ladies

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Split Personality: Part Nazi, Part Socialist

When we were kids, “the social worker” was a powerful person in our lives. They came to check out our house and, I guess, decide about benefits my mom would receive. We worried about being “taken away” because as bad as it was at home, it was familiar and we were together. I don’t know how much money the welfare gave my mother; I know it wasn’t a lot. She didn’t always pay the rent and we were often hungry. Periodically, we’d get boxes of “commodities” that contained food items that a more accomplished cook could have made into good meals, but my mother was a terrible cook. We ate some of it—the cheese and the blocks of processed meat—-without any preparation. We just cut pieces off and ate them. I imagine some of the food was thrown away, wasted. It seemed like Mom always had money for cigarettes, though. And she got drunk. Maybe she bummed them or other people bought her booze, but I’m convinced she could have cared for us much better than she did. Read more »

Stuff like this makes Facebook worth it……

This is Water

I hope I did that right :). I absolutely love this reminder of life’s real meaning. I tend to be obnoxiously engaging at places like checkout lines (if you talk loudly on your cell phone, I figure I’m invited into the conversation and I WILL share my opinion about what you should take to the party) and I often wish I were a quiet person who other people couldn’t figure out. BUT I also often see many people who don’t see anyone else around them. And that’s sad.

Broken Vessels

I enjoyed listening to Elder Holland’s “Like a Broken Vessel” talk this conference. He said that when he was a young married man, he suffered from depression Read more »

The Walking Dead and what I think they should do differently

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I’ve watched some of The Walking Dead from time to time and been really grossed out. My word, do they have to show the beasts gobbling down the intestines? Yuk. But the acting is good and the characters compelling so now that I’ve discovered Netflix streaming, I decided I’d start from the beginning. Got hooked, of course. Like the guy above. Geez, it’s like a mental illness.
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My Definition of the Priesthood

I will tell you upfront, my husband Rob hates this. He hated it the first time I said it aloud to him and when I told it to our children. Read more »

Stephanie and the Cop

Stephanie wasn’t Mormon like me. Her family was Catholic but they weren’t very religious. Read more »

Suffer the Little Children………

Bookslinger sent me the link to this story today: Lawsuit against LDS Church (If this doesn’t work try a copy & paste for this http://www.journal-news.net/page/content.detail/id/600380/Lawsuit-filed-against-church-for-coverup-of-sex-abuse.html)

I hadn’t heard of this story before, but if it’s true, it makes me just so incredibly sad. Some of it doesn’t quite make sense to me and maybe it’s because the family of the abuser was so totally whacked it couldn’t make sense, but I wonder if the reporter got all the facts right.

For instance, he writes:

“After learning of the abuse, Jensen’s parents allegedly banished him from the family home and made him sleep in the backyard but, at the time, allegedly encouraged church families to use their son as a babysitter,”

What? Read more »

Mormon Scrupulosity

I was listening to This American Life, a National Public Radio show you should be paying attention to and I heard this Read more »

Throwing the baby out with the bathwater

“Don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater” is one of the few statements that gets on my nerves every time it is said.

Here’s why: Read more »

Didn’t Expect to Read This

I started reading this article:

Weeping of a Disappointed Womb

off my internet news feed because the title looked interesting. Being a woman, I am generally attuned to female topics and I was assuming this was about female infertility. Read more »

To Toil is Good for the Soul

Years ago, a friend of mine was called to his stake president’s office. He assumed it was for a church calling of some sort. He was wrong Read more »

Aspergers Mission

April and her son Zachary

April and her son Zachary


Eleanor’s babysitter April has a son who was diagnosed with mild Aspergers at 16. He’s now 19 and has received his twelve-week mission call to a neighboring mission area–roughly two hours away from home. He starts October 10th. Read more »

I WIsh I Could Get Married Again and Do It Differently

Why You Can’t Attend Your Friends’ LDS Wedding but Should

I read the article above and it reminded me again how ridiculous I think this policy is. When I got married 26 years ago both sets of parents went to the temple ceremony with Rob and I, but none of our siblings could attend. Neither could any of my bridesmaids and only 2 of the groomsmen. Why not? Because they didn’t have temple recommends. At the time I didn’t give it a thought because everyone knew and accepted The Rules.

But now I am older and have seen all kinds of life and I don’t generally put up with unnecessary crap anymore.

I have a dear friend who got married when she and her husband were in their early thirties and although they were both temple worthy true blue Mormons, they had a civil wedding so everyone could attend and then they got sealed a year later. Lots and lots of people had opinions about their choice. I was surprised at how upset people were, especially the comment that they were setting a bad example for the youth in their ward. I gotta say, their wedding was magazine stunning, which is not hard to do when both the bride and the groom look like models. I guess the thought was they made civil weddings look too appealing.

I silently applauded my friend and agreed she did the right thing. All their family attended and no one was left out. How is that a bad thing? Read more »

Grandbaby Eleanor

As you have figured out, this is a post about my shining star, our Grandbaby Eleanor. Like all grandchildren, she is special and important and rocks our world. She also worries us and keeps us up at night thinking of ways we can help her. We have her on a special diet, give her specific supplements and we are constantly researching what might be helpful to her. Read more »

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