I am completely and utterly raw right now.

I have read more than 30 stories of #YesAllWomen and my heart hurts so much. So many women… so many women hurting because something happened to them. This has to stop. THIS HAS TO STOP!! I’m scared. I have four boys. I have four boys that will grow into men and one day they might cat call a young woman because it’s the ‘cool’ thing to do, or because she actually is pretty, and it will strike fear in her heart. They might tell an inappropriate joke because everyone else is. They might push themselves and their needs onto another human being. Read more »

Personal Jesus

I have a friend who is going through a divorce. She immediately recognized she needed help while working through the process of redefining her life. Since the church where she lives doesn’t offer divorce support groups, she began attending a weekly community group that meets in a local church. Read more »

Is this the beginning?

I wrote this after April Ordain Women event.

I feel like I’ve been on this road for a very long time. Yet, I turn and look backward and realize I’ve only just begun. I’ve learned a lot in the last two years and I’m just starting to see how those wonderful horrible experiences are all interconnected and how they got me to where I am now. The very core of who I am has been challenged. My belief system has been torn apart piece by piece and I’m left thinking, where do I sit/stand in the midst of it all? I’m still unsure, but the road is long and I have plenty time to figure that out. Let me share with you some of my experiences along the way.

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Best Wedding Advice Ever

27 years ago this month, Rob and I were sitting on a white couch in the Celestial Room ( a beautiful all white room that represents heaven) at the temple, waiting our turn to get married because we chose the busiest day of the day of the year to seal the deal, when a sweet white-haired elderly man made a beeline towards us. Read more »

Changing Babies Diapers At Church

Why are there no diaper changing tables in the men’s restrooms at church? All stores have that now, including my beloved Target. By putting the changing area in the nursing mother’s room, it guarantees no father’s will change a diaper during any activity or meeting at church.

What happened to the part of the Proclamation on the Family about how husbands and wives work together to care their children?

Who in Salt Lake is over men’s restrooms? I want start a petition over this if that is the only way to get common sense reforms in how we take care of children while at attending church functions.

Unwanted Adoption (Part Three of Three)
Part 3The conclusion you are about to read is true. Names have been changed, location omitted. For Part One click here. For Part Two click here.

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Unwanted Adoption (Part Two of Three)
Part 2
The story and events you are about to read are true. Names have been changed, location omitted. To read Part One: click here.

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Unwanted Adoption (Part One of Three)
Part 1
The story and events you are about to read are true. Names have been changed, location omitted.

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Keep ‘em guessin’

I consider myself an active member of the church, but I wonder how others in my ward perceive me. Those who’ve known me for years know that I’m pretty orthodox, a bit flaky, but still…….

I’ve played with the new people, though. Our ward split—actually added area—while Bill and I were separated. I tell new people I’ve been in jail or rehab, that I’m inactive. I don’t—well, I can’t—hide my differences. Differences from the sincere and friendly people who’ve moved into our ward and want to be a part of us. Read more »


I have a few words that I’ve learned in my reading travels that I like to toss out to confuse my less learned friends and to impress others with my great intelligence. Paradigm is one of them. I learned it from a professor. (Oxymoron, dichotomy, ambivalence…..all good words)

So, I’ve had a paradigm shift. In essence, I’ve changed my mind. It happened this week and is more of a spiritual awakening than being convinced intellectually of anything. Totally unsought and unexpected.

It started Saturday afternoon as I thought of those women lining up to attend priesthood. I felt a sudden pang of sisterhood and so much sympathy for them. I’d previously been pissed off at them because I thought this demonstration was crossing a line into open rebellion. I didn’t like that they were, in essence, airing our church’s dirty laundry publicly. Better to do as I do, simmer, and bitch and moan to local authorities ad nauseum. Read more »

No, Seriously. Which Would You Pick?

I have one daughter who watches the tv show “19 and Counting” about the Duggars family. The husband and wife have had 19 children, all by themselves without medical intervention. http://www.duggarfamily.com/ Yikes! Read more »

Sabbath Shopping

I am to the point in my life where I don’t bother remembering much. I’ll read a book, thoroughly enjoy it and then a year later, pick it up and reread it, not remembering I already read it until the very last chapter. Read more »

What’s the Deal?

It is Friday night and I am watching the tv show 20/20 on ABC. It is a story of a Mormon couple and the husband is a murderer.

Is it just me, or have there been a lot more Mormon husband killers lately? What’s the deal with this?

What’s the Point?

I have a dear friend who is going through hard stuff. Her long-term temple marriage is breaking up. Her soon-to-be ex-husband is messing up their very tight finances with frivolous purchases that are making their bad situation worse. Honestly, she is so tired of the drama, she is looking forward to this being over. Read more »

Does it really matter?

Kirby is on my facebook page, either as a friend or sometimes if famous people have too many friends all you can do is like them. His latest column Why I Remain a Mormon, etc…… was, in my opinion, perfect. I echo his sentiments. I shared it and have noticed it popping up all over facebook, with some criticism of his blase attitude.

One woman said it sounded like he didn’t care if the church was true or not and that wasn’t a selling point to her. Thought about that. Thought “who cares?” Who’s trying to sell anything?

Then I realized, it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter if you don’t have a testimony sealed with super glue, but prefer our way of worship. It doesn’t matter if you just feel comfortable in the Mormon Church. Well, maybe to your bishop in a recommend interview (which I’m more and more thinking is just a silly process). Read more »

Dumb things I’ve said from the pulpit

One of the most amazing things about our church is that we are expected to preach to each other. As a result, lay people who have no business expounding on anything in public, find themselves in front of a congregation who are waiting to be taught. Read more »

Being a member is like taking chemotherapy

A friend of mine started her conversation with me by saying, “Being a member of this church is like taking chemotherapy. You know you need to it to live, but you hope it doesn’t kill you in the process.” Read more »

Turn the “but” around…….

I taught RS a couple of weeks ago for a friend who was out of town. I used this from Exponent http://www.the-exponent.com/relief-society-lesson-4-strengthening-and-preserving-the-family/comment-page-1/ and focused a lot on a couple of quotes from Marjorie Hinckley urging women to accept themselves and to use what works for their family and discard the rest.

I also used the quote from Orson Whitney which Elder Bednar refers to in the latest issue of the Ensign, regarding salvation for wayward children. A dear friend called me asking if I’d seen the article and I said I had, adding I felt prophetic. Then she said it. “But.” And she referred to the caveats Elder Bednar added. She’s a good and kind person who was geniunely delighted that there was something in the Ensign that I’d used. Still, I reacted badly. Read more »

Counting My Blessings

In general, I like to think of myself as a positive person. I am all about “Count Your Many Blessings” (Although I do insist that be done in your own head. Nothing is more annoying that someone actually listing out loud all the ways their life rocks while mine is slowly sucking wind. Keep your joy-joy to yourselves, folks.) Read more »

Mormons in Space

This came up, in a round-about way, on a sci-fi discussion list I’m on.

Now, I’ve always assumed/dreamed/hoped that (assuming the Second Coming doesn’t come first) some day we’ll start colonizing other planets.  As part of that, I’ve always had a little dream of a Mormon Planet – called either Zion or Deseret, I’m sure.


What would happen if our intrepid pioneers made planetfall and then lost contact?  Truly, completely cut off – the wormhole that leads to their system has collapsed, for example.  (Assuming that immediate survival is not at issue, because that’s clearly a different discussion.)

My prediction is that they’d immediately print out copies of the scriptures, plans for the printing press, recipes for paper and ink.  They’d probably have already organized into a branch at least so they’d keep with that organization until it was clear (or God prompted someone) that contact was not going to be re-established.  At that point, a new Prophet and Apostles would be called.

Because hey, starting from scratch in the wilderness with help inaccessible is not new to us.

How do you think they’d handle it?

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